Economic Dependency and Domestic Violence Against Men

Economic dependency One key factor that keeps men trapped in abusive relationships |

When we talk about domestic violence, the focus is often on women, but men can also be victims—and it’s happening more than you might think. One key factor that keeps men trapped in abusive relationships is economic dependency.

Imagine being in a relationship where your partner controls all the finances, and you rely on them for everything from rent to groceries. Now, imagine that partner is abusive. The fear of losing financial support can make it extremely hard to leave, and that’s the situation many men find themselves in.

The Connection Between Economic Dependency and Abuse

Economic dependency creates an imbalance of power. The person with financial control holds all the cards. When men are financially dependent on their partner, they’re at a disadvantage, often feeling powerless to escape an abusive situation. It’s not just about the money—it’s about control.

Key Points:

• Fear of Financial Instability: Men who rely on their partners for financial support may stay silent about abuse out of fear of losing their livelihood. Leaving an abusive partner could mean losing their home, their income, and their stability. This fear keeps many men in harmful relationships (Gateri et al., 2021).
• Shame and Stigma: Society expects men to be the breadwinners. When they aren’t able to fill this role, it can bring on feelings of shame and failure. Add in domestic abuse, and you’ve got a situation where men feel like they’ve lost control, which keeps them silent (Huntley et al., 2019).

Financial Control as a Form of Abuse

In many abusive relationships, the abuser controls every aspect of the household finances. This can involve controlling access to bank accounts, giving an allowance, or sabotaging any attempts by the victim to earn an income. For men, this financial control can feel like a trap, especially if they feel incapable of surviving on their own financially.

Key Points:

• Economic Manipulation: Abusers often use money as a weapon, threatening to cut off access to funds if the victim tries to leave or report the abuse. This manipulation keeps men dependent and unable to make independent decisions (Kolbe & Büttner, 2020).
• Limited Options: Even when men decide to leave an abusive relationship, they often face a lack of resources. Shelters and support services are typically designed with female victims in mind, leaving male victims with fewer options for help (Duffy et al., 2013).

The Cycle of Silence

Economic dependency combined with shame, societal expectations, and limited support systems creates a cycle of silence. Men don’t speak out because they fear losing everything, being ridiculed, or not being taken seriously. This keeps them trapped in abusive relationships.

• Isolation: Abusive partners often use financial control to isolate their victims. Men may be cut off from friends and family, leaving them with no one to turn to (McHugh et al., 2013).
• Cultural Expectations: Traditional gender roles discourage men from seeking help. Many men feel that admitting they’re being abused makes them “less of a man,” which adds to their silence (Hines & Douglas, 2015).

Breaking Free

Economic dependency makes leaving an abusive relationship extremely difficult, but it’s not impossible. Raising awareness about male victims of domestic violence, challenging outdated gender norms, and expanding resources for men are all crucial steps in helping men break free from these situations.

Conclusion: Men who are economically dependent on their partners often face barriers to leaving abusive relationships due to fear of financial instability, shame, and a lack of support. By addressing economic inequality and increasing resources for male victims, we can help break the silence and give all victims the support they deserve.